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When the final answer is not

What do you do when the question you thought had been answered in your life, wasn't? 

And now you're here and the answer is way back there and try as you might, you can't make out all the details of what led to that answer in the first place. 


Because here is different than you thought it would be and the answer that helped bring you to this place doesn't feel, sound or act like it did back there.


Do you doubt? Cry? Stress? Retreat? Regroup? Proceed? 


Do you pray? Ask friends? Family? A coach? A counselor? 


While Team Marshall is partial to coaching :), I say it depends on where you were, what you are thinking and how you chose the answer in the first place.


Also it is what circumstances and emotions are impacting the answer that now isn't quite the the final answer after all. 


Sometimes it's still may be the answer and we just need to see it as such by adjusting our lens and the perspective we are using to view the situation. (When we change our thoughts we change our world!)


Sometimes it's not the answer because who you were when you accepted it as final is not who you are today. It happens. Growing, developing, evolving... All of these have an impact on our "final answers."


And there's nothing wrong with that. 


And sometimes... Well, sometimes somebody else decides our answer wasn't really an answer.


And that's alright... Not because sometimes it doesn't hurt or create pain for us, but because just like we get to grow, develop and evolve, they do, too. 


And there's nothing wrong with that either.


Learning to let go of the answers and the results and instead just walking and living through the questions can be so freeing and incredibly rewarding.


Being able to release the idea that we can't control the outcomes doesn't do anything to change the reality of what does or doesn't happen, but it can do everything to impact how we feel as we walk through that reality (in a positive way). 


And that can be a wonderful thing. 

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